It has been my general experience that women who are victims of violent sexual assault just need an old fashioned public shaming. After that they are usually more than willing to be emotionally stable and open up about that time when they thought they were going to be murdered.
And if the one doing the shaming holds a huge and inordinate amount of power over the victim, that couldn't possibly add to the emotional trauma.
< /sarcasm >
Not to say that this woman was a saint, but to say that she committed crimes as horrible as him is a little much.
All that matters it this: Can you expect women in similar situations (and there are plenty) to feel compelled to go running to the police after seeing this judge's tirade? Could they honestly expect to be protected and counselled, or just blamed and berated?
They can honestly expect to be protected and counselled if they come forward when this abuse happens. The criminal justice system is full of passionate, hardworking people who devote their lives to helping women and children in these situations. I know a few of them personally.
I understand that this scolding wasn't the best public service announcement that the judge could make. I think that he probably just lost it out of frustration. The people in the CJS who work with kids, either in a specialized juvenile division or a general criminal court, really do get emotionally invested in these cases. You can't disconnect yourself from it.
Here is my perspective on what the judge meant by going off the rails here... "For the love of God, these are your children. Don't let this abuse go on. We're putting this guy away for life times 2, plus 20 years. We, the system, can and will protect you and your children. Why the hell did you wait so long?! Do you have any idea what kind of damage has been done to these kids?!"
It's not easy to come forward and report this kind of abuse. I realize that. I've seen the effects of this abuse too. At some point, someone has to break the cycle and stop it. And it does become a cycle. I'm sure that judge has seen cases where the abused becomes the abuser when they get older. It just goes on and on.
I can't find any more info about this case online. I'm interested in what the judge meant by her going out drinking. I get the feeling that there is a hell of a lot more going on here.
PS: I have no idea where/if you are registered, so you and Sarah are getting a check. Surprise spoiled. I don't know if I can make the ceremony, but I'll be at the reception. With bells on.
Steve, your very presence is gift enough. But if you are still looking for something more, then dig deep into your years of experience and consider your favorite beer (or liquor or wine), and give the gift of happiness in bottle (or case) form.
Complete with review.
-Nick
PS Sarah also has a mature palette for the fermented drinks so rest assured that your gift will be enjoyed by the both of us.
I'll keep my eyes peeled for something good when I'm at the store. You picked a bad time to get married, beer-wise. Summer seasonals are kind of vanilla, in my opinion. Most of them are just lite beer that's jammed full of coriander. And that new Leine's one, the Summer Shandy, tastes like Froot Loop milk. It's pretty weird.
If I find something good, I'll buy it and gift wrap it. If not, prepare for the cold, impersonal card and check.
"There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences."
P.J. O'Rourke
Would that the majority of Judges were like this guy.
Posted by
Billiam |
9:42 AM
It has been my general experience that women who are victims of violent sexual assault just need an old fashioned public shaming. After that they are usually more than willing to be emotionally stable and open up about that time when they thought they were going to be murdered.
And if the one doing the shaming holds a huge and inordinate amount of power over the victim, that couldn't possibly add to the emotional trauma.
< /sarcasm >
Not to say that this woman was a saint, but to say that she committed crimes as horrible as him is a little much.
All that matters it this: Can you expect women in similar situations (and there are plenty) to feel compelled to go running to the police after seeing this judge's tirade? Could they honestly expect to be protected and counselled, or just blamed and berated?
Posted by
Unknown |
9:19 PM
They can honestly expect to be protected and counselled if they come forward when this abuse happens. The criminal justice system is full of passionate, hardworking people who devote their lives to helping women and children in these situations. I know a few of them personally.
I understand that this scolding wasn't the best public service announcement that the judge could make. I think that he probably just lost it out of frustration. The people in the CJS who work with kids, either in a specialized juvenile division or a general criminal court, really do get emotionally invested in these cases. You can't disconnect yourself from it.
Here is my perspective on what the judge meant by going off the rails here... "For the love of God, these are your children. Don't let this abuse go on. We're putting this guy away for life times 2, plus 20 years. We, the system, can and will protect you and your children. Why the hell did you wait so long?! Do you have any idea what kind of damage has been done to these kids?!"
It's not easy to come forward and report this kind of abuse. I realize that. I've seen the effects of this abuse too. At some point, someone has to break the cycle and stop it. And it does become a cycle. I'm sure that judge has seen cases where the abused becomes the abuser when they get older. It just goes on and on.
I can't find any more info about this case online. I'm interested in what the judge meant by her going out drinking. I get the feeling that there is a hell of a lot more going on here.
PS: I have no idea where/if you are registered, so you and Sarah are getting a check. Surprise spoiled. I don't know if I can make the ceremony, but I'll be at the reception. With bells on.
Posted by
Steve |
10:24 PM
Steve, your very presence is gift enough. But if you are still looking for something more, then dig deep into your years of experience and consider your favorite beer (or liquor or wine), and give the gift of happiness in bottle (or case) form.
Complete with review.
-Nick
PS Sarah also has a mature palette for the fermented drinks so rest assured that your gift will be enjoyed by the both of us.
Posted by
Unknown |
11:21 PM
I'll keep my eyes peeled for something good when I'm at the store. You picked a bad time to get married, beer-wise. Summer seasonals are kind of vanilla, in my opinion. Most of them are just lite beer that's jammed full of coriander. And that new Leine's one, the Summer Shandy, tastes like Froot Loop milk. It's pretty weird.
If I find something good, I'll buy it and gift wrap it. If not, prepare for the cold, impersonal card and check.
Posted by
Steve |
11:32 PM